The Misbehaved Children

Tarquin and Katherine have two children. Thomas is five and Martin is two years old. These kids are the most undisciplined I’ve even seen. Jayne and I had a lot of comments and talked about what they’ve done.

(I don't have any pictures of the children, now, so these cows will have to do!)

They are always doing things that they shouldn’t be doing. I bet that Tarquin says ‘no’ to them hundreds of times a day. Some things are little like, “Don’t go near the stream (three times),” “Get down from that rock pile,” “Don’t hit your brother,” etc. they are always running around or interrupting conversation Tarquin is having with someone.

In the car on the way back Jayne told me how Thomas was pinching his brother which made his brother cry.

Their attention span is very short, as even their mother commented that they don’t sit down and watch a cartoon.

On the last day when their parents were off to the city, the kids were home with the workers. Jayne heard one child crying. We just thought that it was a minor thing until she turned around to look at the window. Here, Martin was hanging from the chicken wire with one foot in the fish pond. What he must have done was, leaned over the rail and flip over. Still hanging on he had one foot in the pond. Jayne got him out, but what if she wasn’t there – as none of the workers heard him.

Then later that day I saw a tap on next to the house with water running out. There was no hose attached, so I knew that it was watering the plants. So one of the kids just turned it on and the water was flooding the path.

We never saw them sit down with a coloring book, or the older one reading a child’s book. We never saw them playing with a toy for more than a minute or two.

The sad things is that the parents don’t see how misbehaved their children are. When they see that they do something wrong, they just say, “Don’t do that Thomas (or Martian)…”

Kids will continue to do what they shouldn’t when they know that all they will be told is “No”.

It’s not that the kids are dumb, but by not having corrected upbringing they never grow intellectually. Jayne told me how far they are behind compared to her daughter, Natalie, when she was their age, and how far behind in intelligence and behavior to her granddaughter, Isabel, too.

And to have children like this when you are running a business is very unprofessional. Having children that are behaved in a business where it’s a family environment is ok, but when they are misbehaved is another matter.

I know I was never like this when I was a child. I had an attention span even at age 2, but that’s because I was corrected when I did something wrong. When I knew that I shouldn’t do something, I didn’t do it. When it was something new that I had done, one “no” was enough, as I knew that I would get the hand. This was how all children we brought up when I was young.

The reason why most parents have problems today is because they never hit their child. In some countries if you do hit your child, the government will come in and KIDNAP your child. Of course they don’t call it that, but that’s what it is.

If Tarqiun’s children got spanked when they did something wrong, everyone’s life would be better. And their children will grow up to be good adults (unless other factors come into play).

A child will be corrected one of two ways – either the parent(s) hit the child and correct them or nature will do it for them. For example, if children don’t listen to their parents (because there is no fear of punishment), they will do it again. If it’s a dangerous situation they can get hurt or worse. This is the hard way of learning and may people have lost their child because of this.

Case in point is when Martin climbed over the rail and had his arms twisted. What if no one was there, he could have hurt himself or even drowned. Whenever the first time he did this he was spanked on his butt hard, you can be sure he’d remember this and not do it again.

These children are not even sent to their room for a couple of hours or told not to go outside for a couple of hours – they are just told as many liberal parents do. their parents just say, “No Thomas/Martin”, which is the worst way of correcting a child.

I was not raised like this. “Thanks Mom for raising me right! I love you.”